Wow, look at this thread of exchange. What a tremendous self-guilt, Chinese should be so shamed of ourselves to behave like that. 我二十多年前到美国也是这样感觉，very conscientious, 父母来了也嫌他们在超市声音太响，挑黄瓜使劲捏。去年，我爹（speaks no English）在Walmart买了红薯,发现价格是促销打折前的价格，气冲冲跑到客服，一指收据，一指顶上挂的大牌，说了一个字“was”。要是二十年前，我会觉得不好意思，暗地用英语解释一下。Nowadays,我在旁边哈哈笑而已, They made a mistake, they deserve the attitude, and should apologize to my dad, although we don’t have to be nasty, which is OUR discretion to be nice or not at that circumstance.

Look，we are who we are. Everyone has his/her merits, and has shortcomings as well. 缺点去意识到慢慢改，努力就是了，没必要觉得自责，尤其中华文化出来的人,让父母和老师害的，自责的体无完肤毫无道理. Don’t make me wrong, I truly appreciate the opportunity I had in this country. 当然，如果我留在中国，从概率上来说，所谓成功的机会可能会更大一些. 但是我不后悔，if I have the chance to choose again, I will still choose to come to US. We are so lucky, we, especially STEM oriented, belong to the group every country would like to have. We are positive part of almost any society. Are we perfect? Of course not, we have our shortcoming, for example, we are loud in public sometimes. 意识到，注意一点就是了，过去的习惯慢慢改。而且我根本就不会提醒父母注意，they can do whatever they feel comfortable, that is my culture. When my formal fiancée, a nice Anglo girl who do not speak Chinese, said she can’t live with my parents. I have to tell her I will live with my parents as long as they live. I only marry someone who will live with and take care of my parents together with me. Well, what about my parents being loud and bothering some “Americans” in public? That is the insignificant price they have to pay to keep me here in this society! If I hear them saying rogatory words “it is like a zoo”, I will bluntly tell them “go back to your dent, you pervert!”. Again, I acknowledge that it is a shortcoming, we will gradually improve. In the meantime while we are enjoying the improving process, I am not in a hurry to be perfect, and just be who I am, and feel pretty darn good about who I am.